About

My Approach to Counseling

I believe counseling works best when it is thoughtful, direct, and rooted in reality. I don’t believe in quick fixes, surface-level reassurance, or avoiding hard conversations. I also don’t believe in shaming, blaming, or hiding behind “niceness.”

My approach is collaborative, honest, and structured — designed to help people understand what’s actually happening, take responsibility where needed, and move toward meaningful change.

What You Can Expect in Therapy

Whether I’m working with individuals or couples, therapy here is active and engaged. We don’t just talk about problems — we work with them.

That means:

Slowing things down when emotions are intense
Naming patterns clearly (even when they’re uncomfortable)
Exploring both internal experience and external behavior
Balancing compassion with accountability
Staying grounded in reality rather than ideals or pressure

Healing happens when truth and care exist together.

What You Can Expect In Therapy

Evidence-based Practices and Therapeutic Techniques

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT helps us look closely at the connection between thoughts, emotions, and behavior.

In our work, CBT is used to:

Identify unhelpful thinking patterns
Understand how beliefs shape reactions
Challenge assumptions that keep you stuck
Practice new ways of responding rather than reacting

This isn’t about “positive thinking.” It’s about learning to think more clearly and act more intentionally.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

ACT focuses on building a meaningful life — even when things are hard.

Rather than trying to eliminate uncomfortable thoughts or emotions, ACT helps you:

Develop a healthier relationship with your inner experience
Stop fighting what can’t be controlled
Clarify values that actually matter to you
Take committed action aligned with those values

This approach is especially helpful for anxiety, internal conflict, and faith-related struggles where control, guilt, or avoidance have taken over.

Systemic & Relational Work

People don’t exist in isolation — we are shaped by relationships, families, and systems.

Using a systemic lens means we look at:

Relationship dynamics, not just individual symptoms
Patterns that repeat across time and relationships
How roles, expectations, and history influence the present
The interaction between responsibility and impact

This is foundational in my work with couples, especially those experiencing high conflict or considering separation, but it also matters deeply in individual counseling.

Working with Individuals

Individual counseling is for people who want more than surface-level support. This work is honest and reflective, focused on understanding patterns, building insight, and creating real internal change.

I work well with individuals who:

Are self-aware but still feel stuck
Want honesty rather than constant reassurance
Are open to accountability without shame
Want faith integrated thoughtfully — not used to bypass emotional work

Working with Couples

Couples counseling often involves intensity, conflict, and pain — especially when relationships are on the brink.

My role is not to take sides or assign blame. It is to:

Slow down destructive cycles
Help both partners understand the pattern they are stuck in
Hold each person accountable with clarity and respect
Support repair where possible and honest discernment where needed

This work goes beyond communication tips. It gets into the real mess of the relationship — because that’s where healing happens.

Christian Counseling

I am a Christian counselor, and my faith informs how I understand people, suffering, responsibility, and growth.

At the same time:

Faith is never used to silence pain
Scripture is not used to pressure outcomes
Spiritual language is not a shortcut around emotional work

Christian principles are integrated thoughtfully and respectfully, and only when it supports the client’s goals and wellbeing.

A Final Word

Therapy here is not about being “fixed.” It’s about understanding what’s happening, taking responsibility where needed, and learning how to move forward with clarity and integrity.

If you’re looking for counseling that is honest, grounded, and willing to engage the hard parts — this may be a good fit.